Death Follows For a First Time Meet In Person Date
Sonia Varaschin was ultimately a victim of her own loneliness.
This tragedy near Orangeville Canada highlights the risks and dangers of meeting someone online. Even though the killer left a trail of information on Sonia's computer, it was difficult for police to delve through. This is mainly do to the anonymous nature of dating sites, and the ability of stalkers to totally hide on totally free dating sites. In any event, none of this was any help to Sonia herself.
In choosing a free dating site like plenty offish.com, the victim unwittingly maximized her risks. Let me qualify this statement.
Although this particular tragedy was centered on plenty offish, they are not the only risky site on the internet. In fact there are many other free dating sites like OK Cupid.com, and many, many more who are financed primarily by advertising revenue. I will not try to list them all. Many sites walk the fine edge of maximum danger without actually realizing it.
The problem here is that any site that allows two people to communicate in any way for free is dangerous. Here is why.
There are many social misfits out there. Some are just lacking social skills, but others are sociopaths. It is very possible that the apparently nice guy that you are chatting to on the Internet is actually possessive and abusive in real life. The epitome of dangerous people are axe murdering predators. They will take your life without a second thought.
You may wonder why I am singling out free online dating sites, when in fact I am not.
This range of sites also includes face book.com. Accepting friend requests from someone you do not know who is a friend of a friend is a very dangerous practice. If you friend is as sloppy as you are, you may find that you just befriended a stalker.
Social networking sites that require some form of payment before allowing communication are inherently safer. Because it is easy for police to follow the money on such sites, sexual predators stay clear of them. On the other hand, it only takes them a few minutes to set up a string of bogus email account on yahoo using a real email account as reference, then set up a phony email account on gmail ,then erase the initial yahoo account. At that point you can now go into the gmail account and point the base email account to some fictitious email account on AOL, and you have pretty much left a tough trail for police to track. The really smart stalkers will use a free email account trail crossing providers based in several different countries so that police have to do tons of paperwork to get access to the records. Once the stalker has a largely untraceable email account on a free service like gmail, then they are free to use it to join all the free communication sites out there. Coupled with a disposable cell phone purchased in another city, and you have full communication with someone who has just created an untraceable identity.
So what can you do about it?
Well the first, and most important step is to stay off of free social network dating sites. They increase your exposure to danger to unacceptable levels.
These next tips are just common sense details:
1) Make sure you communicate online for a fair length of time before meeting in person. Make sure you do not let them know anything about who you are or where you live, or any outside contact information in the initial stages.
2) At some point use a disposable phone yourself, or else take advantage of an anonymous phone service, like MyPrivateLine.com, which offers a disposable number that lets you talk to strangers without revealing your phone number.
3) Look for BS when you are communicating. Stalkers are liars, and they can be tripped up in their lies – watch for it. Look for irregularities in their stories. Look for inconsistencies in what they tell you by asking similar questions and making sure that the answers line up consistently. Inconsistent answers are all danger signals. Stalkers usually have more than one potential victim that they are stringing along, and will often confuse details in what they tell each mark.
4) Get recent pictures of them. How can you be sure they are recent? Well to be really sure, get them to take a close-up picture of themselves holding up today's paper.
5) Make sure that they understand that you are just being careful. Genuine people will likely applaud your apparent paranoia. You must also be willing to do the same. If you are not willing to give up your home town, then use a public library and use a paper from another city in your photo.
6) Your first date should be short, a coffee shop rather than a bar, and be in the daytime and short. Do not go home with him or let him take you home. Be upfront and tell him that you have told your friends where you are.
7) Take a picture with your camera phone and send it to some friends while you are still on the date. If they do not like that, then to bad. But now get out right away!
To make a long story short, use your head before you let yourself lose your heart.
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