Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. About half of women over the age of 60 live alone compared to only one out of 6 men. Dating sure has become a different animal in the last couple or three decades. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are often so confused that they don't know if they should open a door, pull a chair out, or pay for the whole dinner and movie.
Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perky breasts, is slowly fading away. Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. Finding the right man or women in your golden years is no easy task, you find more Mr and Mrs Wrongs than Rights. And all of them seem to talk about are their medical problems a lot ('ha' like I don't have my own).
I have had dates that demanded I pay for half the meal, the gas they used to come to my home and pick me up, and to add insult to injury demanded that for our next date I pick them up, how pig headed is that. I guess I am not that liberated yet. You will often have to sit through an obnoxious evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife, ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their piles are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.
And its just as discouraging for the men. I have heard many disaster stories from friends, who are at the point of no return when it comes to dating. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.
Why is it that mature people have so many problems finding a compatible mate? Life is purported to be simpler as you age. Unfortunately this does not seem to apply to mature people dating. I mean what's the problem? We are not amateurs in the dating game! It is not as if we do not know what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Is it because we are too inflexible? Most likely the answer is no! Older people want the same things that the younger set are are searching for in a relationship. They all want:
1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect
Why would that, in any way, be too much to ask for?
After discussing my relationship vacuum with several of my best friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the hundreds of senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging information from my pals, and after spending too many nights alone talking to my cockatiel, who by the way has a bigger vocabulary then some of the men I have dated recently, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and googled senior dating sites. My friends were right! There are dozens if not hundreds of them, my head was spinning.
It was a little confusing for me at first. As I said, there were so many sites I didn't know which one to try, I was completely out of my league. I explained this to one one my friends and she suggested a site for me. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.
She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this wonderful man at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave the same ones a try, it was simple I just entered my profile information, and the site did most of the rest of the work for me. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in in what seems like centuries I am actually going out with fabulous men and it's so exciting, life really does get better with age.
If you are a mature man or women and you are searching for someone to share your love and life with, then take the first step. Check out the link below and join one or two of the sites. You will never regret it.
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/seniordating.php
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